May 23, 2019
(Part 1 of 3)
Many of you know that my Mother passed away in March of this year (2019) and I haven’t stopped running since. Today as I will be sharing this podcast I had to and still am learning some valuable lessons about the grieving process. There is no fine science about losing a loved one. We all grieve differently and that is part of why no two situations are the same. Losing a loved one is definitely not easy, my Mother was amazing and we were very blessed growing up with her being home with us. Dad had a very good job so we grew up with Mom being home every day. She truly was a great example of 1 Corinthians 13:4-7. Of what Love is:
4 Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud 5 or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged. 6 It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. 7 Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance.
When she passed she went peacefully with the entire family being together. What followed for me was what I describe as breaking the rules of grieving. First of all, I hope some of you will learn from my mistakes even though I meant well. If you do not listen and take to heart anything I am about to share please listen to this part. If you lose a loved one never, ever, ever make important decisions that can affect your life in a major way. 2 of those are never change: careers and never sell your home within that time period. My wife wanted to do for me exactly what I had done for her years ago and move us near my Father. This was a wonderful gesture and unfortunately, we started moving forward with this idea on our actual emotions instead of wisdom. I even went as far as telling family and friends and sadly I got people’s hopes up, especially my Father. The end result is we ended up realizing we were acting in our own emotions and decided not to move. The good news was Dad fully understood and agreed with the fact that we acted too soon based on our emotions after Moms passing.
Looking back I wish I knew a couple of months ago what I know now so that I wouldn’t have jumped so quickly. We are very thankful though that my wife did not leave her job and that we still have our home. I am learning now that all this time since my Mother passed away I had never stopped to allow myself to grieve; I had been so busy with life and stuff, that I never took the time to Be Still and allow the process to take place. Have you experienced the same thing? Be sure to leave a comment I would love to hear from you. My prayer is that this podcast will help you in some way with the grieving process. God Bless You and Yours!